Have you
seen the movie “Seabiscuit”??
Of course,
it was heart-warming to see people (and a horse) ~~ all apparently “broken”
from each(s) previous life experiences ~~ come together with compassion,
belief in one another, a 2nd chance, and ultimately success for
all.
One scene
seemed exceptionally “right on” for me . . . and . . . possibly for many of
you.
“Red” (the young jockey) had just lost
a race & was “defending” himself to the Trainer, and to the Owner of the
horse, saying . . . “He fouled me – He fouled me” ~~ (speaking about another
jockey who had attempted to “push”
Red & his horse out of the race.
Rather than
focus on winning the race, Red had stayed “neck-&-neck” with the other
rider to elbow/push/fight back.
When he
continued to “be the victim”,
saying “He fouled me . . . He fouled me”, the Trainer simply responded with an
unsympathetic “So!!”
Red (then)
helplessly looked to the Owner, who
compassionately & wisely said, “What are you REALLY
mad about, son?”
At that
moment, Red had flash-backs of past experiences where he felt “fouled” (i.e. promises (to him) from people he loved ~~
promises that were never
fulfilled).
In the very
moment you find yourSELF justifying/ explaining/ ”making” someone understand
why THEY should see YOUR side, ask yourSELF ~~ what is
REALLY going on here??
What are
you really mad about?
Listen to
YOUR OWN words when you “complain” to a friend
about a particular situation in your life ~~ (i.e. “. . . he fouled
me”)
Recently, I
was “complaining” to a friend about a couple of situations in my life where I
felt “taken advantage of” . . . and . . . my friend “reflected” back to me how
I sounded like a “victim” ~~ It was then I became VERY aware of the
REAL reason I was angry:
“I” ALLOWED
these situations
I ALLOWED other people’s feelings to be MY
responsibility
We always teach & preach to others what we CHOOSE to learn
for ourSELVES ~~
In a
Personal situation, I kept justifying why I didn’t have time ~~ even when my
body was “loudly” telling me otherwise.
In a
Relationship situation, I kept making myself available ~~ even when I
(personally) would have preferred to have “alone time”.
In a
Business-Owner situation, I kept my mouth shut ~~ even when a particular
student continuously “tested” the latitude of my good
will.
In a Boss
situation, I closed my ears ~~ even when “little things” began to create “big
questions”.
When you are choosing to MASTER a particular area of growth, you
will recognize a THEME in every area
of your life (personal, relationship, business) ~~ until you WAKE UP and GET
IT!!
Of course, the REASON I “allowed” all of the
above experiences ~~ and, therefore, felt “I-was-being-taken-advantage-of” (a
victim) was ~~
That if I spoke up
& implemented what I truly felt, I would hurt people’s feelings and
“they” wouldn’t like me anymore –- “they” would tell other people how ugly
& mean I was -- that I wasn’t a good person . . . I wouldn’t be
liked/loved . . . etc. etc.
etc.
And . . .
the longer I chose to IGNORE the THEME running
through my life, the STRONGER & LOUDER new circumstances were presented to
help me “see” ~~ I felt more & more “taken-advantage-of . . . and . . .
subsequently, more and more angry.
Ultimately,
I learned to:
a)
“feel-my-feelings”
(rather than justify, manage, stuff-away);
b)
“express-my-feelings” (even anger –
perceivably the scariest to
express);
c)
AND . . . allow the other person to
handle THEIR resulting feelings
(i.e. their feelings are their feelings ~~
and ~~ it’s O.K.)
Next time
you find yourself complaining and “recounting-reasons-why” someone has
“wronged” you, ask yourSELF
What am I REALLY feeling?
What is REALLY causing me to feel this way?
Who is REALLY responsible for this
feeling?
Be True To
YourSELVES,
Suze ;-)
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